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The Transactional Life (and How to Get Around It)

If one does X, then one receives Y.

Couldn't be simpler. If one mows the neighbor's lawn, the neighbor will reward you with some money. If you clean your room, you receive an extra Twinkie. Punch the bigger kid, get clobbered. Do the crime, do the time.  Quid Pro Quo. If X, then Y. Call it The Transactional Life. 

The difficulty in growing older or up or however you choose to look at the passage of time is that you start to see that this contract with the world, this Transactional Life, is not fair. Most of the time, the value you place on X is not in equal proportion to the perceived value of Y.

Sometime in the past several years I had most of both my romantic and artistic afflatus sucked out of me by not so much the soundtrack of rejections the life of a concurrent actor and undersized male post collegiate dater expectedly, perhaps necessarily, entails, but rather by the cumulative power of just a few harsh ones. Oh sure, they don’t help, but a your opponent’s hundreds of little jabs only make you tired, it’s the big punches that put you on the floor.